Depression is something which creeps on you quietly. It feels like another bad day, but it’s not. You continue to stay in this state of mind and put on a social face whenever you have to. It starts to cost you more and more every day, you start shutting your friends and family think there’s no one or nothing that can help you or make you happy. You feel as though you will never be happy again. There is part of you which wants everything to be alright, you want to go out and meet people but you know that’s not going to work either.
It’s difficult to tell if you’re depressed or If someone else around you is suffering from this insufferable syndrome, there is no face to it. A very fresh example would be the suicide of the very famous lead singer of the band Linkin Park. Wife of Chester Bennington recently shared a video of her departed husband just 36 hours before he committed suicide. By watching the video, you see how normal Charles Bennington looks which clearly indicates that depression isn’t something you could easily judge no matter how serious the illness may get.
— Talinda Bennington (@TalindaB) September 16, 2017
Another departed soul which left all of us in the state of shock was Robin Williams. Williams hung himself to death in 2014. He was also known to be fighting from depression for a few years. His wife was aware of his condition however, she had no idea that his condition was severe enough to take his life away. This again goes to show how unpredictable the disorder is. Who knew that a person who makes millions of people laugh and bring positivity to their lives would end up taking his own life.
Depression and anxiety have become very common occurrences in today’s day and age. We hear about it more on a regular basis. Most probably one of the reasons why the Blue Whale Game was able to take so many lives. The game has known to have taken around 130 lives so far. The creator of the game Philipp Budeikin, 21, from Russia, believes that he was cleansing the society by targeting those depressed youngsters and leading them to commit suicide. The 21-year-old, who has now confessed to the crimes, says he thinks his victims were just ‘biological waste’ and told police that they were ‘happy to die’.
There are much more examples to explain how depression may not be easily seen or judged by someone. However, there are small symptoms which can indicate someone is suffering from it.
- not going out anymore
- not getting things done at work/school
- withdrawing from close family and friends
- Relying on alcohol and sedatives
- not doing the usual enjoyable activities
- unable to concentrate
- lacking in confidence
- ‘I’m a failure.’
- ‘It’s my fault.’
- ‘Nothing good ever happens to me.
- ‘‘I’m worthless.’
- ‘Life’s not worth living.’
- ‘People would be better off without me.’
- tired all the time
- sick and run down
- headaches and muscle pains
- churning gut
- sleep problems
- loss or change of appetite
- significant weight loss or gain
However, it’s not important to show any of these symptoms. One can be perfectly normal and still be suffering from depression and anxiety.
Millions of people from all ages suffer from depression and anxiety. It could be our friend, our sibling, our partner, our parent, literally anyone around us. So next time whenever you feel that the person you’re talking to is hiding something or seems to be doing something unusual, make sure you ask them if they’re okay. Sit with them for some time, try to listen to them even if they’re not saying much. Those 2 minute of attention could relieve them from a lot of backlog of stress, it could give them the confidence of sharing their problems with someone without the fear of being judged